Liz Mullinar is the Founder of Heal For Life Foundation. In 2000 she was awarded the inaugural Australian Humanitarian of the Year Award. In 2009 she was honoured with an Achievement Award on Australia Day, as well as being named as NSW Volunteer of the Year. She was a finalist for Australian of the Year in 2010. She has written 2 books to encourage survivors of childhood trauma to begin healing. In her commercial career Liz was Australia’s leading casting consultant for over thirty years, casting films such as Picnic at Hanging Rock, Babe and Shine. She was responsible for starting the careers of many of Australia’s leading actors. In 1995 she was listed by The Age newspaper as one of the ten most powerful people in Australian television.
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In honor of Thanksgiving, I’ve been thinking about what I’m deeply grateful for. I realized that throughout this year, and through all the challenges and hardships I’ve seen people facing these past months, I’ve been struck by something. I’ve been surprised by the things that everyday, ordinary people around me – colleagues, clients, friends, peers, children, and other inspirers – are doing that make the world a better, happier and more peaceful place.
Sure, there is so much around us that brings us down and makes us hang our heads in our hands (just spend the day watching the “news” and your mood will descend from upbeat to depressed in a flash). But I’ve seen a shift of sorts this year – a movement,shall we say – away from pain, suffering and misery towards something more positive, more inspiring. There’s been a keener focus on kindness, happiness, peace and support. And that shift in focus paves the way for a new, more hopeful way of living.
If I were to name the 8 most inspiring things that I see people around me doing around every day, this would have to be my list:
The single most inspiring and transformative act a human being can engage in is forgiveness. I’ve seen therapy and coaching clients completely transform after releasing the pain and suffering they were holding onto because they finally found a way to forgive. To me, forgiveness is looking directly in the face of someone or something that is hurtful, damaging, disturbing or disappointing, and deciding not to harbor hatred or resentment about it. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you’re a wimp and can’t stand up for yourself. It means that you understand that holding onto the pain, anger and resentment hurts you more than it hurts anyone else. It’s the knowledge that hatred and condemnation is not the pathway to recovery or resilience.
Here are some stunning examples of forgiveness, and a beautiful description of howholding on to a longing for revenge won’t give you peace.
Long lasting relationship is based on Kindness and Generosity.
Kindness, on the other hand, glues couples together. Research independent from theirs has shown that kindness (along with emotional stability) is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood, and validated—feel loved. “My bounty is as boundless as the sea,” says Shakespeare’s Juliet. “My love as deep; the more I give to thee, / The more I have, for both are infinite.” That’s how kindness works too: there’s a great deal of evidence showing the more someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship.
Why people are unfaithful?
2Cellos (stylized 2CELLOS) is a Croatian-Slovenian virtuoso cello duo, consisting of Luka Šulić and Stjepan Hauser. Signed to Sony Masterworks since 12 April 2011, the two were discovered after uploading a music video of their cello-onlycover of Michael Jackson’s “Smooth Criminal” to YouTube.